We are saying goodbye to the old crazy cat lady and saying hello to the new trendy and modern cat lady.
In the beginning of this month I started a new series of posts here at Cat Lady Confidential focusing on the cat lady stereotype. The first post was about the origins of the crazy cat lady stereotype and the changes it underwent throughout the centuries. The second post, titled Breaking Free from the Crazy Cat Lady Stereotype, focused on the changing perceptions about cats and cats ladies.
So, to end this series of posts, I asked 6 top bloggers from the pet blogosphere the following question: Who is the modern cat lady? So, let’s hear their thoughts and experiences on the subject.
Caren Gittleman, Cat Chat With Caren and Cody
Who Do I think the Modern Cat Lady Is? This is going to sound so trite, but I believe that a “modern cat lady” is whomever she WANTS to be!
She can be single, married, straight, lesbian, old, young, skinny, fat, affluent, monetarily challenged, employed or unemployed. She can live in the city…or not. She can have one cat or multiple cats. She doesn’t dress any certain way, she just IS.
The common denominator? She LOVES and APPRECIATES cats! She can be crazy or sane, outgoing or an introvert.
The “Modern Cat Lady” should be changed to read “Modern Cat Person.” It is also perpetuating a stereotype to infer that only women love cats. There are millions of men who love cats!
I believe that in this day and age NO ONE should be labeled, a victim of stereotypes or pigeon-holed by strange and antiquated definitions that are NOT based on fact!
Caren Gittleman is a life-long Clevelander who worked in advertising at The Plain Dealer (Ohio’s largest newspaper) for 21 and a half years. Currently a professional blogger in the pet industry who also does freelance writing.
Dorian Wagner, CatLadyBox
Somehow, somewhere along the line, the world decided that women who have cats are crazy… and the world has had an absolute blast with that “crazy cat lady” stereotype ever since.
But something has been happening lately to shake up everyone’s impression of cat ladies… Cat ladies are becoming main stream. Everyone is talking about cats, and more and more people are showing off their love for them. From celebrities on social media to regular people walking down the street, cat ladies are quickly becoming a fabulous thing to be.
You can hardly walk into a clothing store without finding a shirt with a cat on it or a necklace with a cat pendant. And you know why? Because being crazy about cats is normal. And awesome.
The rest of the world just needs to catch up and realize this. They’ll come around. They’d be crazy not to.
Dorian Wagner is the founder of CatLadyBox and the cat video blog Your Daily Cute. CatLadyBox is the first-ever monthly subscription box for cat ladies – cat-themed jewelry, clothes, accessories, decor, books and more, delivered to your door every month.
Marie Symeou, Athena and Marie
I am a cat lady and proud.
I am not dirty, covered in fleas and scratches, hoarding cats by the thousands, and living in squalor.
But I am covered in the fur of my beautiful rescue cat Athena. That’s right – I only have one cat. That’s not to say that one day I won’t have more. My dream is to have my own cat sanctuary, after all.
I have always loved cats and they love me. Over the years cats have been my best friends, soulmates, and yes, I dare to call them my children. It has nothing to do with me being childless as I have never wanted children.
Images of a lonely old spinster living a secluded life with only cats for company, well I am not quite there yet. But let me tell you that if I do end up like that, I am not bothered one bit.
If it doesn’t bother me, why should it bother you? Why must every one live identical lives?
Like my beloved cats, I am proudly independent and a free spirit. No one tells me how to live my life!
Marie Symeou is a British author, pet blogger, cat photographer, animal advocate & animal Reiki practitioner. She also sings (occasionally) and loves being creative. Her rescue cat Athena is her muse and soulmate.
Robin Mudge, Playful Kitty
I consider myself to be a modern cat woman, but I don’t resemble the stereotype at all. To start, I only have two cats, but believe me when I say I would have more if I could. I’m not at all lonely – I’ve been happily married since the day I turned 21. I get involved in my church and community. I’m college educated, talented and confident. Sure, I’m introverted, but no one who knows me would say that I’m shy.
In my opinion, the modern cat woman is a person who is, first of all, filled with compassion for other living creatures. We’re people who stand up to our own species to address the cruelty that is happening. Second, a modern cat woman is not necessarily a woman. My dad often takes care of dozens of cats at a time and he’s not feminine at all. My husband also loves cats. Cat men rock! Lastly, we love cat-themed items because cats are gorgeous! They are stunning creatures that have symbolized female sexuality since the days of Ancient Egypt.
Robin Mudge is an actress, writer, blogger, and kitty-mom to Cinco and Manna. Her kitties are the inspiration for everything she does on Playful Kitty.
Tamar Arslanian, I Have Cat, Single in the city – with cat (s)
The modern cat lady (or “cat woman” as is my preferred term) is confident in her love of felines and not embarrassed by her affections, refusing to make apologies. Her cats are not baby substitutes or a way to find meaning in an otherwise empty life. They’re but one facet – be it an important one – in an already rich life.
Today’s cat woman is not the one-dimensional stereotype the media continues to portray on TV and film. She’s a rock singer (Katy Perry, Taylor Swift), an actress (Kate Walsh), a lawyer, a dancer (Carrie Ann Inaba), a mom with human children, a model (Beth Stern), writer, executive – anyone and everyone!
The modern cat woman believes in integrating her feline family member’s needs into her home in a manner that aligned with her personal sense of style – whatever that may be. The term “catification” was coined for good reason. A home should reflect the human’s personal sense of style with the cat(s) needs – shelving, scratching surfaces etc. – being taken into consideration and integrated in a harmonious manner.
I don’t believe your home should scream “Welcome to Casa Meow,” just as it shouldn’t belt out, “Welcome to Romper Room” should you have human children!
Tamar Arslanian began “I Have Cat” as a way to chronicle of her life as a 30-something NYC singleton looking for love despite the complication of owning cat (s). Tamar’s blog reads like “Sex and the Kitty” and has brought together thousands of like-minded people from around the globe.
Vanessa Morgan, Travelling Cats
I sometimes joke that if I’d ever be single again, I’d become a crazy cat lady. You know the type: she wears pajamas all day, doesn’t want a husband, hardly ever leaves the house, and owns more cats than she can handle.
Right now, though, I’ll stick to being a ‘modern cat lady’ – settled, career-minded, well-traveled, knowledgeable about horror movies, and with a socially acceptable number of cats. People who hardly know me wouldn’t suspect a thing. But never ask me if I have children, because then I’d answer that I have ‘furbabies’. Don’t enquire about my profession, because then you’ll find out that I have a cat blog and that I have written a book about my cat. And definitely don’t look at my travel pictures, because then you’ll notice that the majority of them are with felines.
Over the years, women have become more independent and career-oriented, and the definition of a modern cat lady has evolved along the same lines. We don’t just stay home to take care of cats anymore, because there’s so much more going on in our lives. Yet, deep down, we still ARE those traditional crazy cat ladies.
Vanessa Morgan is the founder and creative mind of Traveling Cats. She is also a novelist and screenwriter. Her latest thriller Drowned Sorrow has been called the ‘scariest story of the year’.
I would like to thank Caren, Dorian, Marie, Robin, Tamar and Vanessa for accepting this invitation. Thank you so much!
I hope you all enjoyed reading these awesome experiences and thoughts on being a cat lady – or cat person, or cat woman 🙂